And that moment... the one I have been dreading and longing for finally came.
The day that he admitted....
He knew that I was the Easter Bunny, the Tooth Fairy, and Santa.
I don't think we ever know as parents how this moment will feel. Will we be relieved? Sad? I always wondered HOW I would handle it, what I would say? Because I am the mom... I AM SANTA.
So I spent a LOT of time thinking about all the things that could possibly play out. There are TWO different scenarios that always repeat....
It would open up with a heart to heart where I would tell my son that even though we have to believe in magic and miracles, that the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, and Santa were not real. They were imaginary and that parents play the role of these mythical characters to show our children to believe in the unknown for anything can happen. And he would hug me and say, mom you are the best. How did you know what I always wanted. I love you. I will always cherish this moment in my heart forever. And then we would bust out our own rendition of "We Are The World."
I call bullshit. THIS will not happen, lol... it is too 1950s for me. Then next thing you know I will be wearing an apron and baking an apple pie or some other yummy treat. Wait, I do that. scratch that. LOL but you know what I mean....
Kennith comes screaming out of his room. Crying. "MOOOOOOMMMMMM"... Deep breath and sigh, "WHY DID YOU LIE TO ME???" I say, "Excuse me?" He then goes into this diatribe about how I lied to him all these years. How I tell him you should always be truthful, because even if the truth hurts it is so important to say... he sobs and sobs. Tells me I am a liar and I cry. I start to shake because it is NOT my goal to have anyone hate me, let alone my child...
Then he says, I KNOW.
I say, you know what. I say I know what, what?
He cries, YOU KNNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWW!
I say KNOW WHAT KENNITH (Now I am getting pissed, and think he is just 'playin' me a fool)---
He takes a deep breath, dramatic pause and sputters.... "That Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy are not real and they are you." DEEP GASP FROM MY SON!
And he hates me for life because he is right----I did lie to him.
This scenario was dramatized for entertainment purposes, but not that much. If you know my son you know he possesses enough drama to fill a house. But this is what I was expecting.
HOW IT REALLY WENT DOWN:
Maddy was "resting" and Kennith and I were just chit-chatting. I took a little break from work and we were talking. He said, you know what. I said what. I know all about the Easter Bunny and stuff. I said you do? He said... yes, but that is ok. I will still believe, because believing is so fun.
I said, how did you know?
His response? COME ON MOM. You are not that good at hiding stuff. I can see when you and Phillip sneak things into the cart at the store. But it's ok. I will keep the secret for Maddy.
I said you would do that? He said yes, because it is magic mom... dramatic sigh (because it is MY son after all), and even though she is so mean to me, I love her.
Tears in my eyes I hugged my boy.
We don't give our little mini-mes enough credit. Here I was worried that he would be sad or angry and you know, he wasn't. He doesn't feel betrayed or sad... he feels like he experienced something magical AND at 9 he is willing to share that magic with his sister.
The best part was at the very end where he said this.... "NOW can we get a 'Shelf on the Elf' for Maddy? that way she can start being good FINALLY. I will help with it."
THAT's my BOY. So here it is... We will start a new tradition... Creating extra special magic for Maddy. I just need to get insight from my wicked awesome Elf on a Shelf creative friend Audrey... Then we have another magical moment to share and pass down...